This one was on my reading list for a while. Tunne lukkosi gained a lot of awareness in Finland and as I’ve always been interested in psychology I had to read it. And now I finally did. I was actually surprised that I could find it at a library in Sweden. Without getting to know the topic before hand, it first seemed familiar, until after a brief googling I found out that tunnelukko was just a Finnish term for life traps. And about a year ago I had read Reinventing your life by Jeffrey Young, a book that had a very similar content, but was still different enough to keep me interested in Tunne lukkosi.Before, or at the beginning of the book, you’re recommended to take a test in order to find out which life traps are present in your life. The test is included in the book, but I found an easier online version as well. If you don’t mind reading the book more than once, or are willing to go back and forth, you might not need to take the test at first, but if you’re planning to read the book through once, taking the test before hand will guide your reading and you’ll know in which parts to focus on.
Life traps are developed during childhood as coping mechanisms and some of them are harmful in our everyday lives even as we grow up. Thus, becoming aware of them and eliminating them will teach us to function better in difficult situations and might increase our happiness. The book presents techniques on how this can be done. Making notes and keeping a mode diary is an important part of this. Compared to the piece written by Young, the techniques presented by Takanen felt a bit softer and going back to the unpleasant situations of one’s childhood included a role of a more responsible parent, instead of an almost aggressive one, as it felt like from time to time when reading Young. I’d recommend this book for pretty much anyone who’s willing to look back into their childhood and grow as a person today. We all have life traps, some more subtle, some more visible, but it’s always useful to look inward and see how we can function in a more constructive and more responsible way.
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